Another Lost Weekend

April 1st, 2013 - filed under: Furthermore » Another Lost Weekend

A good friend of mine sings a sweet, alt-country cover of the über-80′s Wall Of Voodoo jam, Lost Weekend (a spectacular song in it’s own right). It’s super catchy and it’s sort of been in my head for weeks, which is why I’m using a lyric to title this series – even though the original song is rather forlorn. Quite the opposite of my weekends these days, but never mind that. It’s a great title and really, aren’t they all? Lost, but never forgotten.

Last week was a hard one. A really hard one. I’ve had a lingering case of the sads, plus we’ve been fighting off a cold. And on top of that, preschool was on spring break which means Waits was home with me, which means my work was sidelined, which makes me a bit of a stress mess. Oi.

So needless to say, I was more than happy to say hello to Friday afternoon – the beginning of a damn good weekend. And we kicked it off right, when Waits woke up from his nap around 4. The first thing we did was make some juice!

This is Waits’s new favorite blend. Actually, since turning three he’s become increasingly picky with his vegetable intake, and this is one of the only juices he’ll drink right now. Luckily it’s packed full of goodness!

Cilantro and lime from up at the preschool, a bit of kale from my CSA, and tangerines off our tree. SO. GOOD.

We spent a lovely afternoon together, just the two of us, puttering about in the back yard. We planted a flower bed.

This is my dilapidated little house. GLAMOROUS. I know you’re jealous.

Flowers! Can’t wait till they really fill out. Snap dragons and ranunculus.

And then we took a little tricycle ride around the neighborhood, with Mr. Harley. Perfect spring weather.

That evening there was a simple dinner (that didn’t photograph well) and a lovely bath (but I’m not so into bath-pictures-of-kids on the internet, so no photos of that either) and then it was off to bed for the little guy. Once he was snoozing I got to work, late into the night . . .

Saturday started off overcast and gloomy, but that didn’t stop us from taking our weekly stroll over to the Farmer’s Market. Besides, grey skies make great light for photography.

These kids were just adorable, and seriously talented too.


From there, we were off to Waits’s preschool. I’m really lucky to have found The Greatest Preschool In The World (no seriously, it’s official) and I would do anything to make sure Waits goes there. Which is why, when we were getting all enrolled, I asked if there was any way we could do some sort of trade, maybe, to offset some tuition? When she agreed I was stoked, and when she proposed that I take on the school garden, I think I actually squealed.

So for the past few months, I’ve been putting together a vegetable plot. Or actually, a few vegetable plots. One is in full swing (kale, butter lettuce, swiss chard, cilantro, and broccoli) and another I’ve just seeded out (carrots, walla wallas, cantaloupe, and watermelon). And that’s just the beginning! There is so much space on that terraced hillside. BIG plans.

The preschool valley. The garden is on the hillside directly below, barely visible.

so miniature // so much weeding

I see you Mama!

On the way down from preschool I dropped Waits off with Damian. Back at home I quickly got to work grading papers, which I did for a few hours, until . . .

Porch. Coffee. Friends. Perfect.

One of my oldest and dearest friends was in town for the weekend. And I met her, on that porch, which belongs to another old and dear friend that I’ve recently reconnected with.

Gretchen (in town for the weekend).

Ingrid (keeper of the perfect porch).

If I tried to describe these two women to you, it would probably just sound like bragging, because it’s not possible to do without using words like “brilliant” and “visionary” and “multidimensional-genius-goddesses”.

It’s funny though, when you’ve known someone as long and as intimately as we’ve known each other. They saw me through my entire tumultuous twenties, saw me at my very worst – as I saw them at theirs. We watched each other make big mistakes. Laughed and cried and loved and hurt. Put each other on pedestals and gasped as we all tumbled down. Went through years-long periods of not even speaking, and at the end of all that . . . a porch, and a cup of coffee, and my heart is so very full for them. Life is funny and I am lucky. And that’s just that.

Blogger! (photo by Gretchen)

I was supposed to go home and work. And I was so close! I was really going to, but . . . well, Gretchen’s only in town for the weekend and dangit, she convinced me to come out to this BBQ. At least I put up a good fight.



And as the sun went down, the instruments came out – everything from an upright base, to guitars, to a beat up old harmonica. And I thought, “Yes, this is definitely where I’m supposed to be tonight.” Sometimes there’s just more important things than work, ya know?

I woke up Sunday morning, rolled over, pulled my laptop into bed, and began working. And that’s where I stayed until the afternoon.

Tofu scramble topped with olive tapenade. I use this scramble recipe.

With enough work done to satisfy (sort of) my nagging sense of duty, I ventured out into the world. I don’t celebrate Easter, but I did have a party to attend!

My friends were throwing an “Art Party”, which is basically a way to get all of the amazing creative people they know in one place, to meet and mix and make creative connections. Which is awesome, because they know A LOT of amazingly talented people. It was also a way for Clovis, a photographer, to take a series of artist portraits, which he’s putting together for a show.

Our inspired hosts: Clovis, a photographer, Ingrid, a painter, and Terry, a musician.

Props for the photos. (The typewriter was mine)

Paintings everywhere, even on top of the fridge.

I put my camera down pretty early in the evening. Sometimes you just want to be in the moment. And it was a great moment, that stretched well into the night. We watched an experimental short film, listened to a noise dj, and took lots and lots and lots of portraits. It was an amazing night, full of amazing people. Definitely the perfect cap to an all-around amazing weekend.

What about you – did you have a good one? I hope so!

  • sue

    fantastic! guess i am a voyuer at heart!

  • Cyntro

    ‘Sometimes there’s just more important things than work, ya know?’ I’ve always believed when you write, living, honest to goodness LIVING is the work required. I very much enjoy your blog. Thanks for taking the time to share it.

  • Shannon Mulligan-Mayernik

    Sounds like an amazing weekend—I wish I had my camera out more this weekend but I did not…hopefully next weekend I will :) Happy Monday!

  • Ingrid Holden

    thank you for the beautiful photos! i am so freaking happy you were part of it all! and i’m glad it was documented.

  • Monika {windycityvegan}

    Sounds like a fantastic weekend! I spent most of mine outdoors working on my gardens. Looking forward to seeing your vegetable plots at the preschool flourish over the next few months.

  • Cate Claydon

    Beautiful Post. What an amazing evening filled with delightful;) company.


  • Cammila

    Girl, you put SO MANY amazing images in every post! An art party? Freaking miniature horses?! I’m really sorry you had a hard week — they happen to me too. But I love how you get at the other side of the coin here; having friends who know and love every point in your spectrum is so special. :)

    Also: I posted about the 90′s again today. I think I’m developing a space/time wormhole or something.

  • Linda Everman

    you spent time with friends instead of going home to work!! good for you. Too often we feed our brains and forget about our souls and hearts. take it from an old gal – you did good

  • Linda Everman

    But; to answer your question. Because I am trying very hard to lose weight, I chose to stay family-less on a holiday for probably the first time in 64 years. I chose, instead, to make my very first batch of vegetable broth. woo hoo!

  • Alanna

    Hi Sayward,
    I’ve been reading your blog for the past month or so now and always look forward to your new entries. It sounds (and looks!) like you have a beautiful life. :)
    I noticed something peculiar with the entry you posted today (April 1st) and just wanted to mention it so that you’re aware. The first time I read the post, your reference to “work” in the first paragraph was hyperlinked, and when I clicked on it it led me to a product called Coffee Shop Millionaires. The hyperlink made it look like you were affiliated with this product and perhaps promoting it. The second time I read through your post, the word “work” was no longer highlighted. Again, not sure what was up, but thought I would let you know in case it wasn’t kosher.

  • Jane

    Maybe it’s one already, but that big ivy or bush in the preschool play area near the horses, with a little “foot” pruning, would be a mean Brachiosaurus.

  • Rachel Jacobs

    The school garden is shaping up nicely. My kids school have gardens all over and it really is just phenomenal. I don’t think enough parents have their kids come home and say “We had beet pancakes with homemade syrup for snack.”
    Good for you for expanding these preschoolers palates.

  • Taylor

    Sounds like a very swell weekend indeed! Glad it was the end to your difficult week!

  • Linda Everman

    So I made the lentil soup recipe today and it was amazing!!!!!!!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    I agree! If only I were just a writer . . . some day! <3

  • Sayward Rebhal

    heehee, I am too! isn’t that what reading blogs is all about? ;-)

  • Sayward Rebhal

    I always forget to take pictures if I’m not actively attempting to record something. That’s why blogging is great for memory-keeping!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    I had a blast, thank you for hosting, beautiful lady!

  • Sayward Rebhal


  • Sayward Rebhal

    So great to see you, as always. =) When are we doing dinner??! Lots of love ♥

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Aww, thanks. I feel like i’m really lucky right now, to be surrounded by so many beautiful things to photograph.

    Also, your 90s mix tape is rocking my WORLD!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Thanks Linda, I feel like it was definitely the right decision. =)

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Was it good??

  • Sayward Rebhal

    April Fools? Is this a gag? Because that would be really weird, I never use embedded ad links. Weird!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Haha, totally! That’s actually the passionfruit vine, and it’s covering a treehouse and hammock. *swoon*

  • Sayward Rebhal

    They all eat kale and broccoli and cilantro right from the garden. Pick and munch, pick and munch. It’s so adorable.

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Thanks Taylor, it definitely did the trick. =)

  • Sayward Rebhal

    YAY! I *love* that recipe, and have been craving lentils lately . . . mmmm . . .

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