Oi! Hello there, dearest! HAPPY FRIDAY! Aren’t you glad it’s the weekend? Boy howdy, I sure am. I’m ready for Farmer’s Market and movie night and playing in my garden and mostly, relaxing relaxing relaxing the last of this sickbug away. What are you looking forward to this weekend??
I just wanted to take a moment to say THANK YOU to everyone who’s left an Amazon review on The Vegan Pregnancy Survival Guide. I keep wanting to respond [on Amazon] with a big sloppy “OMG THANK YOU!!!!1″ for each one of them, but honestly I always think it’s kind of awkward (and tacky) when authors get involved in their Amazon reviews. So I’ve restrained myself there . . . but not here! OMG THANK YOU!!!!1
And now, let’s get with that attitude of gratitude!
Le Love List:
1. YOU GUYS
Yeah, ALL of you! Can I just take a moment to tell you all how much I appreciate you? From the frequent commenters who have become my friends, to the silent lurkers who hang back (I know you’re there and I love you too!), I say thank you to ALL of you. Bonzai Aphrodite is a rare little slice of Internet real estate, because it’s always happy here. Comments aren’t ever catty, the drama pot never gets stirred, everyne is helpful and kind and there’s just this general sense of overwhelming positivity. That’s *not* because of me – it’s because of YOU GUYS, and the energy that you all bring. So sincerely, and with all of my heart, thank you.
2. The book Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic
I know I haven’t written about it much, but I’ve had quite my share of struggles as I’ve learned how to be a parent during these last 18 months. I think we all do, but my particular journey has been made the more difficult because 1) I am a type-A control freak, and 2) Waits, as it turns out, is what they call a spirited child. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka coined the term “spirited” (which replaced “hyperactive” and/or “difficult”) and this week, I was finally able to begin reading her book. And just getting into the first few chapters, I’ve already learned so much – about Waits, yes, but also about myself (I was also a spirited child!), and how that affects my own parenting.
I’m reminded of a time when Waits was a brand new baby. I remember looking at him and wondering how I could possible love something so much, and how anything could be so completely perfect. Suddenly, I imagined my own mother, and how she must have looked at me in that exact same way. And for the first time in my entire life, I saw myself through her eyes. Not with my own eyes – my vision obscured by self-criticism and impossible standards – but through the eyes of a mother. I saw my innocent self through the lens of unconditional love. This all happened very suddenly, and quite unexpectedly, and to be honest it left me in tears. But I’ll never forget that feeling.
That moment was an epiphany. It was a precious lesson about the role of perspective in the process of (self)love.
Anyway, reading this book is bringing about similar revelations. It’s helping everything to make sense, and it’s going to make me a better mother. I am just so grateful.
3. Planning holiday projects and presents.
I’m feeling really excited at the anticipation of giving this year, and I can’t wait to get working. What are your favorite homemade holiday gifts?? (Some past projects for reference: vanilla bean sugar, reusable “Java Jackets”, crockpot candles, and homemade tea bags.)
Also! The sun is back and I’m soaking it up, craft night with gin and girlfriends, gin and tonics holy crap I’ve missed you, soaking in baths that are seasoned with amazing Soapwalla scented salts, um – alliteration apparently (always!), that combination of a certain sight and a certain smell that just instantly takes you back to a childhood memory, and oh yeah tomorrow is VEGAN MOFO, yo!
Alright guys, now it’s your turn – tell me what you’re loving this week!
My darlings, this happy little post will stay at the top of the page
all weekend until tomorrow because it’s MoFo time y’all, and I’ll be POSTING EVERY DAY! But still . . . stop by any time to leave your Love List, ask a question, or offer some feedback! Or if you’re new, please introduce yourself and say ‘Oi!’! This is your community, so get involved!