Pictures Of Things + Le Love List :: 13/52

April 1st, 2017 - filed under: Furthermore » Feedback

Strawberry jalapeño margarita, chips, salsa, and guac. Good times.

Spring break, wahoo! Party party! Right?

Today (Saturday) I was helping a friend move. She’s a single mom and it was just me, and another of our girlfriends, and her. Plus her little boy and my little boy. And the three of us women were loading boxes into the moving truck, maneuvering mattresses and balancing bookcases, and our sweet little boys were playing on the rope swing in the front yard, in the warm spring sun, on the last weekend of their spring break. And there was this one moment, on my way to the truck with my arms full of boxes, and I felt the warm sun and the breeze, and I gazed up at the big elm tree that our children were playing beneath, and I passed my amazing girlfriend, and I just thought — damn, I’m happy to be where I am right now. In my 30s, in this place, in this life.

Spring break, wahoo! Party party!

It’s nice when you can be grateful for where you are. So, here’s to a wonderful spring break. A few pics of what it’s looked like:

Remember when I used to make entire blog posts out of “photos from the farmer’s market”? I still think they make the prettiest pictures.

Locally grown papayas!

Those carrots were some of the biggest I’ve ever seen. (In this pic, he’s talking to some crows, offering them pieces of his carrot.)

I made a salad to bring to lunch for my coworkers, just because. With homegrown kale, toasted almonds, strawberries, coconut shreds, red onions, raisins, and homegrown nasturtium and calendula flowers. It was pretty delish.

Making wishes.

This right here is a giant cup of absolute heaven, I swear it. HEA-VEN.

The ocean was azure and angry and so, so beautiful this week.

This little person. This exquisite, exceptional little person. ♥

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And now, it’s time for the one, the only, Le Love List!

Bullet journaling. (OBSESSED) // Jeremy: “Waits, did you know your mom was the prettiest woman at Vegan Street Fair?” Waits: “Duuuh.” They’re so sweet to me. // Getting my hair washed, damn that feels good! // The S-Town podcast is absolutely heart-achingly amazing. // Waits: “Dude, imagine if a chicken had chicken pox!” *dissolves into laughter* // Going the extra mile at work. // Mountains of rainbow chard in my garden — my verymost favorite green. // Taking in an afternoon matinee with Waits, and gorging ourselves on movie theatre popcorn, sour patch kids, and mango con chili. // Sweat peas. // Family pizza dates. // Watching The Temple Of Doom with Waits for the first time (his first Indiana Jones experience!!!), and they jump out of a pilot-less airplane and use a big yellow raft as a parachute, and land in the snow and they’re raft-sledding down a mountain at lightning speed, barely missing trees and boulders and Waits exclaims “Oh man, plan your trajectory Dr. Jones!!!” And that’s just the kind of sweet stuff my week was made of. ♥

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Alright guys, now it’s your turn! I really love reading your own Le Love Lists, so please leave them down in the comments below. What are the little things in your life that make you smile this week?

Happy Sunday, I hope you have a most wonderful week!

♥

http://www.one-sonic-bite.com/ Jennifer

Am I crazy for liking to help people move stuff? Maybe because it is less stressful when it isn’t YOUR stuff? Or maybe because there is usually beer and pizza at the end XD Did the kids help? I know my nieces were trying to help when my parents moved. Sadly my father isn’t the best at packing (or moving) and packed big boxes filled to the brim with books. They were WAY too heavy to move (and the boxes were 20 years old and falling apart, no joke) so we opened them up and handed the kids some books to bring in by hand. XD
http://angieeatspeace.com/ Angie

S-Town killed me! I still feel hungover from it.
This week I am loving; a quick trip to Ojai, 30 days of yoga completed for the month of March, teaching yoga at my local juvenile detention center and a day of juice cleansing.
Sarah C.

Loving this week: family reading dates (we all sat on the couch under cozy blankets and read our own books: BOOKWORM BLISS) // the hubs and I are off to a work trip alone together to Toronto, where there will be massive numbers of veg restaurants to stuff our faces in // getting shit DONE // coffee (I think I’ll go get some!) // bought plane tix for a summer trip to Hawaii!!
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

Wahoo Hawaii! Color me jealous, I haven’t been back since my early 20s and am dying to return. Please eat a mango bowl for me!
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

Hungover is a good way of putting it! I felt pulled through the ringer, just exhausted and stunned like on a soul level. It was so beautiful and sad, just like humanity. ♥
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

Haha, not crazy at all! I like helping people move too, because I love seeing empty spaces and imagining how to fill them and create beautiful new spaces. Also, yes, being rewarded with pizza and beer. Why is that totally the currency of moving? =D
Sarah C.

I’ve never been! We’re going to camp in the volcano NP and I’ve already been on happy cow finding veg restaurants and natural food stores for our campsite. SO EXCITED! I’ll add mango bowl to my must eat list!
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

I ate fresh fruit bowls for breakfast every single day I was there, it was amazing. Camping sounds epic! There’s lots of great veg food so I doubt it will be a problem finding things to eat. Eeee I will live vicariously through you. =D
Sarah C.

You’re making me get even more excited! YAY! I’ll send you a pic of the volcano at night! (I cannot believe I get to camp near-ish the volcano!!!!!!)
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

Um yes please! I want to see your view of the volcano at night!!
Jenn

Hey Seyward, can I ask you a personal question? I would want your email if that’s possible, just so I can keep it personal. I know your busy, I look up to you as someone I would like to be more like: honest, authentic. I’m having relationship issues, we have kids and I just wanted to ask how you made the decision how to leave Waits dad. I know this has nothing to do with the post here and I looked for another way to communicate with you but no luck… thx Jenn
http://bonzaiaphrodite.com/ Sayward Rebhal

You’re welcome to email me (info@bonzaiaphrodite.com)if you feel more comfortable, but I’m fine talking here.

It’s hard to say how I knew. Maybe I didn’t actually know. We had both been unhappy for so, so long. We spent 3 weeks apart and we both felt so much better, and then when we reunited all the anxiety and sadness came back, and that’s when we realized our relationship was making us unhappy. So, we started trying to work on it. We worked really hard for many months. We talked about it almost every day, for hours. We talked very openly and honestly. We tried to game out every solution or scenario about how to change our lives for the better. We talked about ourselves and what we wanted out of life and our personalities and all that stuff. We tried to figure it out. I started seeing a therapist and then eventually we both saw a counselor together.

It was weird, I feel like I was the one driving all of it. I was the one who kind of navigated us all the way to the edge, all the way to the word separation. I wanted to get up right next to it and touch it, to see what it felt like. But I wasn’t ready to step over the line. I wanted to keep seeing the counselor and keep working.

He is the one who decided. One day he was just done. Not angry done, just really resolute done. He wanted out. It was all very clam and loving. So we made a plan from there, and talked a lot more about what separation would look like. We decided to do a three-month trial separation and also we moved from Portland to Santa Barbara.

It was clear for both of us during the trial that it was for the best. We were both so much happier. Looking back now, I see how completely incompatible we are. It was definitely the right decision for us, and for Waits (because we are now happy people and he deserves happy parents).

I don’t know if that helps you at all. I feel like my situation was unique in that we remained on each others’ side the whole time. We never fought and we stayed so committed to the relationship, so it was such an amicable divorce. We are incredibly lucky and that is definitely not the experience that most people have, so I feel like I’m not necessarily the best person to talk to. If I had had a big messy split followed by custody battles and financial fuckery, I might feel differently.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. ♥
Jenn

Yea I’m the one that sees that we’re not compatible but i keep trying to force it hoping it will be better and that mayb its my fault and because we have children together but he’s not willing to be honest about how unhappy we really are and are merely suffering and being inauthentic about ourselves because it does provide an emotional and financial security. I’ve separated a few times but am having a hard time finally letting go again be cause I get confused that it’s merely my fault that I feel the way that I do and of course for our girls a. But what u said helps. I was just curious because u two seem like you would b happy enough together but mayb that’s not good enough to b able to sustain something so important

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