The Weekend Send-Off

May 30th, 2013 - filed under: Furthermore » Feedback


Moderating the panel “Privacy Lines and Over-Sharing” at Vida Vegan Con – this was probably my highlight of the whole weekend. (with Susan V, Dreena Burton, and Joanna Vaught, oh em gee)

Hey guys, happy Friday! I’ve had a busy week, waking up in Portland at 530 am Monday morning to fly back home to SoCal, reunited at the airport with my baby boy and got to spend the whole week with him. Now I’m down in LA again for some more relaxation, exploration, and awesome vegan food. Lots of travel these days – work hard // play hard, amiright?! That’s just how I roll . . .


So hey, let’s take a quick detour! As most of you know, I was certified last February by the Main Street Vegan Academy as a Vegan Lifestyle Coach (VLC). As soon as I finished blogging the re-cap of my experience, I was sort of flooded with emails inquiring about my practice and how it all worked. And, well, let me be honest – I had no idea! It was all new to me.

But people were eager and I was enthusiastic, so I put together a set of packages, which I then offered at a discount to my “test tube” group of initial clients. Again, I’ll be honest – I didn’t really know what to expect from all this. And I didn’t even know if I’d be any good at it. Or if I’d enjoy it. Or . . . anything!

Well, that was a few months ago and I’ve since worked with a number of clients, and I’ve found the entire experience to be nothing short of thrilling. Helping people realign their lives to more authentically express their truth – whatever that truth might be – is the most rewarding work I’ve ever done. I adore coaching, and as you can probably guess, I’m ready for more!

“I loved my vegan coaching experience with Sayward. She really got the heart of the issues I was asking about – she really heard what I was struggling with. Once she identified my core concerns, she went out and got me exactly the information I was looking for. She totally nailed it. I feel so much more empowered now, with the knowledge she was able to give me.

Equally important, my work with Sayward was totally a judgement free zone. Never once did I feel belittled or criticized for not being as far along my path as others may be. Sayward responded to any question or concern I had with compassion and understanding, and then followed it up with rock-solid knowledge and education. My experience working with Sayward was so positive and I feel really lucky to have found her!”
-Emily, VLC client

If you’re at a place in your plant-based journey where you feel yourself teetering on an edge, if you’re curious to dip a toe, or if you wonder what the next step might look like, well I would just love to work with you!

I am now accepting clients, so shoot me an email at info AT bonzaiaphrodite DOT com. Let’s chat!


I don’t have any music to share today, but I couldn’t not share this incredible talk by one of my very favorites, Amanda Palmer. She just released this video a few days ago, and on the heels of Vida Vegan Con, it couldn’t have come at a better time.

Yes, it’s a half hour long. Please don’t let that deter you.

This is one of the most inspiring things I’ve seen in a long, long time. If you are an artist, a writer, a Creator of any kind, and especially if you share your work on the internet – I implore you to please watch this video (or at least listen to the audio). You will NOT regret it.


And now it’s time for the fun stuff, our delightful Friday ritual. The time when we take a moment to pause and reflect on all the little ways in which life shows us the beauty of the world. This week there aren’t three major things that stand out for me, so I’m just going to go with a tidal wave of tiny joys. I hope you’ll join me!

spending time in Portland; remembering why I love that city; but really, remembering why I left .|. seeing Waits’s face light up when he saw me, and hearing him say “Mommy I love you” over and over again .|. snuggling with Waits a lot a lot a lot .|. late night phone calls and marathon texts .|. quick phone chats with dear old friends .|. Tuesday night family dinner at a mama friend’s house .|. Waits locking my keys in the car when I stopped by my godparents’ house – “making lemonade” and whipping up an impromptu dinner together while we waited for AAA .|. early morning earthquakes! So fun. (and Waits’s first!) .|. ash falling from the sky, because there is another fire on the mountains, which reminds me how everything is fragile and precious .|. stopping by a friend’s house and finding her on the floor, making art with her daughter. Because she lives art and I love her .|. afternoon baths with Waits, splashing and playing .|. late night baths by myself, relaxing and dreaming .|. sometimes even a simple trip to Whole Foods can be a splendid affair (company counts for everything) .|. figuring out how to de-glutenize my very favorite meal at Veggie Grill and oh, the glee when I ate it! .|. picnic dinners on the beach because, hello, we live in SoCal! so good. .|. being exactly where I am right now, in this very moment. Present.


Alright guys, now it’s your turn – let me know what you’re loving this week!

This happy little post will stay at the top of the page all weekend, so stop by any time to leave your Love List, ask a question, or offer some feedback! Or if you’re new, feel free to just introduce yourself and say ‘Oi!’! This is your community, so get involved!

I hope you all have an amazing weekend that fills a million love lists with a million little things!

  • Monika {windycityvegan}

    So many things I’m loving on this week – will have to add them this afternoon after a round of meetings, but I wanted to add this video right away.

    (I haven’t had time to vet it, find out if the translation is accurate, etc, but someone sent it to me and I just now watched it and had to share.)

  • Vedged Out

    amazing experience babe! I’m so hoping to be there next year. xx

  • Rachel from The Vegan Mishmash

    Wonderful love list, as always. These posts always ooze happiness.

    Right now I’m enjoying the anticipation of a weekend at a National Park with a beach and hopefully some down time to read. And the fresh, juicy fruit!

  • Thomas H

    I enjoy your post Sayward but I miss all the old eco-stuff. Seems like you fly a lot nowadays??

  • BadWolf

    This video couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you for sharing it.

  • Deirdre

    I really loved what you said about company counting- Congrats on the coaching and happy weekend!

  • Dana W

    Congrats on your new business! I wish you all the success and happiness!

    I love your Friday love lists because its reminds me to stop and be grateful for the things in my life. So thanks for that! Here it goes:

    Memorial day BBQ and bocce ball with my family(including amazing homemade vegan potato salad and icetea lemonades) tea in bed, pedicures, chipotle and shoe shopping with my sister, baby groundhog in the yard, big bunch of peonies from my neighbors garden, coming face to face with a beautiful deer during a run.
    Have a fantastic weekend! : )

  • Taylor

    Hi Sayward! Glad you enjoyed yourself in Portland!
    This week I was having a tough time, so my love list is really small. But at least I’m loving something:
    -my puppy and her enthusiasm
    -my boyfriend who I miss so much
    ‘Tis all!

  • Claudia

    I was wondering about how you’re dressing your son and fitting it in with your lifestyle. I know you like thrifting (me too!!) and don’t want to give your hard-earned dollars to companies who employ child labour. The reason I ask is because I find myself often having to purchase my son’s pants new, as at his age (4) it’s incredibly difficult to find thrifted pants. Most of them are riddled with holes, and that simply goes with the age. Wondering how you deal with that, how much you’d say that you purchase new, and if there are any companies that you support that aren’t into employing child labour.

  • Brie

    Great video. You introduced me to Amanda Palmer and I’ve been soaking up all of her work. Its all so good. She is empowering. I’m playing one of her songs at an open mic in a few weeks!

    Here is my list of happiness:
    - Coffee and chocolate almond milk
    - When you heal and finally feel truly happy again after a break up.
    - The Star Wars Trilogy and the free time to watch them in a row.
    - The smell of summer.
    - Well earned naps.
    - My ukulele

  • Sayward Rebhal

    I was just thinking about you, lady! I love this list. Grilled PB&J, helloooooo?!

    You better come to VVC next year, seriously! The compassionate parenting panel was great but I felt like it was so so so much to cover, we could only just barely touch the tip of the iceberg. It’s lots of stuff I’ve written about already, and lot’s that I’ll write about in the future. It’s such a huge topic!

    The privacy panel was so awesome, it felt really good and really thorough, and like we were bringing up important issues that sparked a lot of thought. So fun!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    You should Somer, you’d love it!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Thanks Rachel, and yay – enjoy your weekend. Sounds like a lovely time in nature. =)

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Hi Thomas, I’m still doing what I always was – trying my best to live as consciously and mindfully in a way that is realistic and sustainable (as opposed to idealistic leading to burn-out). I’ve taken two air trips this year, both professional.

    What sort of eco-friendly stuff are you interested in? I’d love some feedback – I do feel like I’ve been posting a lot of food/vegan related stuff more recently.

  • Sayward Rebhal

    You’re welcome! I heart her so much.

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Happy weekend to you too Deirdre!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    What a fantastic love list! Hope you’re having a great weekend Dana!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Hey Taylor, I’m sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I have those weeks too. Hope you’re processing and that you’ll move out of it quickly. ♥ ♥ ♥

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Hi Claudia, I actually have only ever bought secondhand for Waits. I guess I’m lucky, in both Portland and Santa Barbara I’ve had great luck finding resale boutiques for children’s clothes. So, it’s not straight thrifting where you’re digging through dirty bins – it’s much more like normal shopping. Anyway, I feel like kids wear their clothing very hard, but they also grow so fast that they often outgrow things that are still in almost new condition. I find all sorts of amazing stuff secondhand!

    Have you checked Craigslist? Sometimes people sell whole lots of items and you can score a bunch of stuff all at once.

    Hope that helps!

  • lysette

    It comforts me to know if I ever need counseling I can call on your services!

    Love Love

    ~A vegan home made ice cream truck in my little home town. 15 flavors of awesome!

    ~Planted two pretty Japanese maples in my backyard.

    ~Spending the afternoon reading the theatre script I’m working on this summer. I love the first read, by August the words on paper will be breathing and moving for an audience. It’s my favorite form of art!

    I hope I can attend Vida Con next time. I talked myself out of it because I’d been in Portland two weeks prior. After reading recaps of the workshops and panels I wish I’d just got back on the bus!

  • Marissa

    OMFG, so glad I took the time to watch that video. Never heard her speak, and she was incredible!

    You’re enthusiasm for coaching is really inspiring. I can’t wait to see how your practice evolves over time!

    My love list: mulberry foraging, playing piano all. day. long., warm summer night cookouts with friends, banana soft serve, playing with my dog, little rabbit friend who likes to come hang out in the back yard, reading The World Peace Diet *again* because I love it so much.

  • stephie137

    Being vegan, and getting my second degree black belt this weekend fueled by coconut water and raw energy bars!

    And then celebrating with takeout vegan pizza from the first place in town to offer it.


  • Monika {windycityvegan}

    If it’s in Chicago next year, I’ll find a way to get there!

    Grilled PB&J is only slightly less awesome than grilled spinach/artichoke dip. It’s been so hot out that I’m using my stove as little as possible.

    Have you read The One and Only Ivan? Nina and I are reading it right now, and it’s been great for facilitating conversation without my having to prompt her.

  • Erin

    I don’t know if you addressed this before, but how did you deal with your post-partum anxiety? Kiddo here is almost 2, and I’ve managed it so far, but it keeps getting worse so… yes! Suggestions?

  • Sayward Rebhal

    I haven’t read it but I’ve heard it’s great! Definitely on the list. =)

  • Sayward Rebhal

    Empowering is exactly the word for it. She inspires me to be authentic!

    Also, yay for ukulele!

  • Sayward Rebhal

    You must come next time! It is seriously not to be missed. 2014 or bust! =D

  • Sayward Rebhal


    So worth watching. And thanks, I am super enthusiastic and feel very grateful to be doing this work. <3

  • Sayward Rebhal


  • Sayward Rebhal

    My postpartum anxiety was all tied up in other illness and depression, but eventually I did seek professional help and that is the only way I got through it. I used an amazing naturopath, but an MD or a therapist is also an option – depending on your particular needs/preferences.

    I talk ab lot about my healing process here, even though postpartum anxiety is not the main point of the post.

  • Richa @

    Congratulations on the new business Sayward.. i love the Friday ritual:) I hope to make it to the net VVC!