On the first Monday of every month, we take on a ‘mission’ – a shift or habit or inspiration – to work on together. There’s strength (and support) in numbers! On the last Thursday of the month, we reconvene to see how far we’ve come.
I am so, so excited about this mission. So ripe for it! I really need it and better yet, I know you do too. For example, reader Rebecca left this comment on the last FFF :
“I am having a really difficult time finding balance and peace in my life. Although it is just me (no significant other, kids, and friends have basically gone by the wayside as they are all getting married and going AWOL one-by-one) I just never feel relaxed and as if there are enough hours in the day. Even if it is the weekend I still feel as if I have too much to do . . . But I just feel stressed out 24-7 . . . can anyone relate? suggestions?”
First of all, YES I CAN RELATE! I’m sure a lot of us can. I can relate to “difficult time finding balance”, and “there aren’t enough hours in the day”. And I’m willing to bet that other passages, like perhaps “never feel relaxed”, or “feel stressed out 24-7″, will resonate with other readers.
It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot. As a certified type-A personality, with Hyper Productivity Disorder™, things like ‘balance’ are a constant battle. I didn’t even really consider it until Damian gently pointed out, “You know, stress management is a really important part of being healthy”.
Oh, the Awful Truth! What the heck is the point of eating so well, taking such nutritional care, if I’m just driving myself to an early grave with STRESS?!
Yes friends, this is a lesson I’ve yet to learn, a big ‘ol demon I desperately need to tackle. Like, yesterday. Luckily there’s about a million options, and hitting it slow and steady will allow it to stick for life.
So this month’s mission is just to begin that movement towards a happier, less stressed and better balanced version of yourself. What that step looks like will be different for everybody. You’ll need to see what rings right in your own life. Maybe you could . . .
. . . start each day with 20 minutes of meditation.
. . . find 40 minutes each evening to take a walk, alone or accompanied.
. . . join a gym and sweat it out!
. . . save your money and run it out!
. . . keep a reflection journal, or a dream diary. Try to write a little every day.
. . . take a night time bath. Light a yummy candle. Use fancy soaking salts.
. . . go to bed an hour earlier and read – but ONLY pleasure reading allowed.
You get the idea. The point is to carve out some special place in your life that says “This is just for me.” In the same way that we eat well – and make accommodations to do so – we must treat ourselves well. And we must grant ourselves the license to do so, without guilt.
This is just one small first step, but the hope is that it establishes a habit. Habitual self-nurturing, which is really an act of self-love, is the foundation of true well being.
So tonight, I’ll be going to a yoga class. What will you be doing to take care of yourself? Do you accept this mission?