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Sat, 28 Feb 2015 13:36:01 +0000

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By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Fri, 06 Feb 2015 01:54:00 +0000

Oh thank you BM, I love hearing that! Cheers, and happy weekend to you!!

By: B M

B M — Thu, 05 Feb 2015 19:20:00 +0000

Every time I come here, I am just so happy. You inspire me in every way possible. Just sayin.

Much love and happy belated b-day!

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 19:40:00 +0000

There is absolutely no moral issue here, and I disagree with your assertion regarding the opinion of the Department of Social Services. (But thanks for bringing them up – that’s something every mother wants to hear!)

My boyfriend and I live in 2 separate houses. We signed 2 separate leases, and pay 2 separate rents, and are responsible for 2 separate sets of bills. I reside in a two bedroom house which is solely occupied by my son and I. The fact that we cut a hole in our backyard fence is neither here nor there.

I do not receive any government assistance, but even if I did, again there would simply be no issue here. We are, financially speaking, two separate households. This is not “effectively a household of 3″, like it would be if I just moved my boyfriend in and didn’t tell anyone. No, this is comparable to having a boyfriend who lives across town, who spends the night at my house (or mine at his) 3-4 nights per week. The only difference is the distance.

Again, financially speaking we are separate. In fact, that’s the sole criticism we get regarding our living situation: that it’s much more costly than simply moving in together. Which is totally true.

So if you want to criticize me, just accuse me of being wasteful or self-indulgent or financially irresponsible or something. Because this weird concern-trolling about some imaginary moral quandary and how it relates to my nonexistent government assistance? It just doesn’t hold any water.

Sorry. Nope.

By: Sally

Sally — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 23:55:00 +0000

This article was shared by someone on Facebook, pointing to the concept of a couple having two apartments. I read it out of curiosity, along with skimming some of your blog. I ask because you are presenting your living situation publicly, one that is effectively a household of 3 (and would so be considered by the Department of Social Services). In other parts of your blog you comment on struggling financially and going to school. I wonder what your moral standpoint on accepting aid in this living arrangement is.

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A Year To The Splits – One Month In! | Bonzai Aphrodite — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 18:43:47 +0000

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By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 18:30:00 +0000

Well gee Sally, why do you ask?

By: Sally

Sally — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 16:32:00 +0000

Do you receive any government assistance, health insurance, etc. and/or financial aid based upon reporting a household of just you and your child?

By: Katherine

Katherine — Thu, 29 Jan 2015 04:03:00 +0000

It’s so important to live life on your own terms — and it’s taken me quite a while to get to that point. But sharing the living situation you’ve created with Los Nidos just reminds me that what may be unconventional for some, may just be the right kind of progressive for others! My partner and I frequently live in different cities as we pursue what is calling to us in life. And when we do live together, we maintain separate bedrooms and living spaces. It works for us. Thanks for sharing!

By: WookieWifey

WookieWifey — Wed, 28 Jan 2015 21:41:00 +0000

Skateboarding in a sequin designer dress. Like a motherfucking BOSS.

Oh, and happy birthday! :)