Comments on: the fantasy hides a fractured facade; facade; facade; facade

By: Kelly H.

Kelly H. — Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:52:00 +0000

Great song and yes…you do look a bit like her!

By: Annie

Annie — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 05:24:00 +0000

I thought as much, but we need some sort of filter for tone/inflection over the internet! Especially since I’m from Australia, so I probably use phrases much differently to most of you lot.
For example, “Yeah, right” means. “I see, do go on,” but I think you
guys say it as “you are exaggerating”, so we get oddly perceived as
snarky a lot from tourists. And we also swear and use mild insults as terms of endearment so we come off as a bit abrasive.
“Australia, land of the c-word with a heart of gold.” <– Pretty accurate.

But yeah, we've all been there – or we're lying. I think the thing is as well is that a lot of our judgements on ourselves *are* justified. The amount of tredding on eggshells treatment I got at work after I cried ONCE when I had a horrible day and had cramps and everything thing just sucked… One time a lady crying, an emotional mess that does not make! So I get feeling like we should be, and appear to be, strong.

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:59:00 +0000

No, no, no! I’m not saying I feel insulted. I’m just saying I really love that phrase. I think you might have meant it as sarcasm, but it speaks to me in a different way. I always try to avoid being the woman crying on the stairs – but sometimes I try so desperately hard not to cry that I end up having to put the lid on a whole host of emotions that then bubble up into a serious meltdown. It was just a great turn of phrase. I meant that as a compliment.

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:31:00 +0000

Thanks kw, and I agree, it does a certain disservice to only present the positive. And that is especially difficult for moms, since we all struggle so much and feel such intense pressure to keep it perfect. Anyway, thank you for the comment. I’m so glad to be back!

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:29:00 +0000

Thanks Sam! I adore that song and I agree, her stuff just gets better and better. I can’t believe The Dresden Dolls was so long ago, and I STILL can’t believe I missed that damn show with you! Ugh . . .

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:28:00 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear about your separation Danika. I hope it was the right decision for you and your family, and that you’re in a better place now. Much love. <3

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:24:00 +0000

Thank you! I love that!

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:24:00 +0000

It’s really, really good to be back here. =)

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:23:00 +0000

Isn’t it incredible? She is so amazing!

By: Sayward Rebhal

Sayward Rebhal — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 19:22:00 +0000

Music has become SO important to me. It’s amazing, truly.